Happy 2018 !

I had been talking with a load of people that felt like 2017 went by soo fast but for me personally, it was as steady as I needed it to be. There were some rocky roads, but what I am eternally grateful for is the lessons learned in 2017, monetary vs trusting individuals; starting some new and exciting things that I would never imagined to have done and truly running my own pace. Speaking with my chest in negotiations and actively focusing on the things that I love despite butting heads with those people who I use to be their personal yes-man to.

November and December, however went extremely fast, I couldn't keep up with my business and YouTube, had the chance to write an amazing piece on my thoughts of what Alexandra Shulman wrote for the BoF, and received such great feedback anddddddd launched my 1st solo project independent from a company. Through the last two months of 2017, I learnt similar things about myself when i was living and working in NYC but at a London capacity. Lessons were familiar and solved much quicker because my contacts were based in the city, some 3 -6 miles away from me at the very most. Also, not like I care anymore to observe - but you have to check yourself - but realising your 'friends' that made the excuse of not supporting you get highlighted in green (I hate green highlighter lol) as absolute BS'ers.

I wouldn't trade 2017 for a peaceful mind, I was rattled but came out with my frontal still in tact and onlooking to the future with high hopes ordained by God Almighty (you better watch out)

Resolutions though ? More like promises

Entertaining comes at a cost : If you don't have much value for the moment I am about to engage with you, I will not participate.

Enjoy: life, flip I'm 24 in a couple days and the two things my mum continually asks is to have much more fun and when are I going to start dating ?

Prioritise : Happiness, I'm a self-confessed workaholic, intended me-time is essential, healthy and well deserved 

If you haven't been following my social media, you have been missing out ! I launched my first project with the help of cool and encouraging black creatives for a black market. It got featured in the Voice newspaper print and online and the event (as my first ever) was outstanding. Check out the coverage online and don't forget to follow BlackMarket_UK

Also, the phrase 'psychology and fashion has been out in the atmosphere lately, Capital Moments gave me the chance to write my views on the topic within fashion. Here's the link 

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New Year New ..

Ahh, so you’ve come across yet another new year new me post, well that is what you think. I hope it really is not though, I plan to have a different viewpoint about looking at 2017.

You see, last year; I did what every other blogger tends to do, summarise how their previous year was and make it a point to really highlight those OOTD posts that could do with some looking at / getting a higher amount of views but not so ‘this page needs more attention’ presentation. Also, making a habit of creating a  new year mantra that is somewhat positive but typically filled with blogger-like motivational quotes – you know what I mean right ?

                This year , I’m going to do more OOTD , more reviews

                Travel more

                Meditate

                Hopefully start Vlogging

Etc etc

Lewl. Sorry, I’m not declaring this ^_^

2016 was a tremendous year full of lessons (better than saying the typical ups and downs right ?) and some celebrations . These lessons taught me a lot about my views on ‘planning ahead’ and completely opened another eye to the ideology of the term, ‘the future’. We are part of a generation that loves to say:

There's no point in saying the phrase ‘a New Year new me’ if that means the outward appearance is to change without checking within first, because your temple is the most important to invest in. Lets affirm the true meaning of having the new mind and a new way of thinking with a new way of feeling to have a positive stance of renewal.

In 2016, you may have realised that you allowed Friends to take an advantage with you due to kindness. This frustration that you enjoyed could have led to a disagreement and argument or worse off (this normally happens) you simply just cutting of that friend because "I don't have the time to be dealing with negativity".

But honestly, in the words of Emily (my old tutor at LCF within PR)…

- ‘What does that even mean?’

                                                Side note: The way she would say those 3 or 4 words after you explain passionately your proposal immediately made you re-think how hard you challenge your present mind for future wisdom. Now a graduate working within the field, I tend to use this across platforms be it reading literature, listening to sermons, reading my bible and very much so listening to people with their determination ‘a new year, a new me’

Back to the conversation.

Why wait til the clock strikes new year? I remember talking with a girlfriend who had really been in some hurricane-drama filled year full of disloyalty and heartbreak and warned her to be careful about what you take from your lessons. It is important for us to take the right information from our tests to have testimonies. Some storms can be so harsh but all have options of how you come out, either a survivor or a conqueror. In basic, your experience can either make you or mould you (ahhh, you thought I was going to say break you right? Lool)

I completely get it and understand where one with think that this is appropriate. The whole idea of "keeping it moving ". But as a believer, this is not how we should be living life. Some of you may feel like friends took advantage of you in 2016, you're not gonna allow it in 2017, "New Year new me"- most people allow situations like this to turn them bitter. Life should not result your behaviour into bitterness based on bad experiences. These negative experiences/failures should open opportunities for evaluation. Sometimes a renewal also means a challenge in your behaviour. Maybe it's time that you challenge your kindness and learn to say no. Be bold when you say no so your kindness cannot be treated as a weakness.

My new year consists of a little more transitioning and open-mindedness. Exploration within the means of peace (cues Mary J Blige- no more drama)

What about you?

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